The Hottie, the Hipster and the Hippie.

​They say everything in life comes in packs of three. From third time’s a charm to the three musketeers. I like to propose that every man has three women in his life that teach him lessons that will forever be remembered. Lessons that make men realize what they could be doing to better themselves. In my journey to understanding dating and love life, I crossed paths with three women who taught me lessons and shaped me into the person I am today. For some reason women bring out the best and worst in me. Today I will talk about the three women who inspired me and enhanced my hidden talents. Three strong and admirable women I should point out. I really thought about whether to post this or not because let’s be real, no guy likes talking about the girls that they talked to. I was like “na” maybe I should just keep it to myself but then I was like fuck it why not. Just do it. So shall we begin or shall we begin?

The Hottie, also known as my first dance partner. We used to have the same dance class but at different times. I remember I would go to both my class and hers because it was hella fun dancing tropical music. I wasn’t the type of person who danced until I took that class. We started going to events and because of her I started gradually getting better, it was all about practicing and tension. I was spending so much time with her that catching feelings was bound to happen. The lesson she taught me was that it’s never a good thing to ruin an awesome friendship over feelings especially when you been friends for a while. I was a douche to her by ignoring her and making it seem like I didn’t know her. I made her feel like shit all because I wanted something more. Even then she forgave me because well she didn’t want to lose my friendship. She also made me realize that I am LOVERBOY. She made me realize that about myself because I was always hella corny to her and I was good at it. I’m still corny but now I realize it needs to be for  the right person. So best believe if you’re into me and I’m into you I will be corny as tits. I mistook her friendly vibe for a she wants me vibe.

 The Hipster, oh boy was she a trip. Also known as the aspiring film nerd. You could say she was my first real heartbreak that taught me a lesson indeed. I still remember when we were in the recording studio and we talked about why she chose film as her major. She could go on for days talking about filmmaking and she wouldn’t get tired. As we talked she told me something that I will always remember, she told me “I want to be the best, no.. I WILL be the best filmmaker.” She was completely sure of herself without any hesitation and that might have been a reason I fell for her, I fell for her dedication.The lesson she taught me was that with dedication and passion you can make your dreams possible. Just seeing that spark in her eyes inspired me to get back into photography. I took a couple of classes before and wanted to get better. The downside was that I was limited because I never owned a legit camera. Yet I still tried to do my best work with what I had. Now I have my own legit camera and basically take it everywhere with me. She might be a proud LEO who loves attention but she inspired me. I turned something I enjoyed doing into one of my passions, after all us SCORPIO’s are passionate to the core.

The Hippie, she’s probably the most realest person I’ve met. She was honest and that kinda rubbed off on me. The lesson she taught me was self-love and that being alone isn’t that bad. Society makes us believe that being alone means we’re lonely but that is such BS. By being alone you learn a lot about yourself and what your want in life. No woman should need a guy to be happy and no guy should need a woman to be happy. Perhaps we need to stop constantly searching for love and let it come to us. Before you can love someone and give them a part of you, you have to love yourself first. I remember one night that I had so much to say about my feelings but I didn’t know how tell her so I wrote her a letter. After reading it she told me that I should consider writing and so I took her advice. It was always easier to get my points across through writing but she gave me that extra push. As you can see I started my own dating and love life blog thanks to her . Might be limited to writing all these blogs on my phone and my thumbs hurting but I make the most of it. Sad to say I don’t own a laptop yet. Might be bit rusty on my grammar but practice will make me better. She taught me to embrace my inner creativity and to treat life artistically, after all us ARTIST’s brains are perhaps our hearts. 

In conclusion to my thesis statement a guy has three women in his life that he has either got to know or dated that changed his way of thinking. You might have gone through four or five girls but the idea here is that you learned and not committed the same actions/mistakes twice. No matter in what terms we ended in I would like to thank these three women for helping me become the person I am today. I know who I am and what I want.


Getting The Woman of Your Dreams

​Knowing what you want is the first step but executing your intentions is actually the crucial step. It’s about giving out the correct vibe. 

For the longest time I believed in the “friendzone” and everyone mocked me for being the guy who always got “frienzoned.” Many times guys give off that friend vibe and that is why girls that they like only see them as friends. If you want someone just go for it and don’t overthink it. If you want to write to her, do it. If you want to sing to her, do it. If you want to draw her something do it. Doesn’t matter how small the gesture just fucking do it. The little things count the most.

For the longest time I also believed that I was missing something and that girls never saw me as anything more than a friend. I realized that there were many girls that indeed saw me as something else but I was never really good at reading signs, I was oblivious to them. I hate how sometimes hints are clear as water yet we don’t catch them early on. Catching the signs has been the downfall of many guys. Whether they were friend signs or I want you signs, they mix them up. 

I probably lost the woman I wanted because I could not read the obvious signs. Or I was reading them all wrong. If something is meant to be between a man and a woman there’s no anxiety, there’s no overthinking, it just happens. Like it’s not even funny at the number of opportunities I had, yet for one reason or another the anxiety spiked up and I messed up. Like bro get the fucking hint. Don’t make the mistake that I been doing for years. 

I’m not a love guru or a dating doctor, I still struggle with showing women how I feel about them. The key to getting the woman of your dreams is confidence, that’s all it really comes down to. Yeah she needs to be attracted to you and yeah you guys have to have a connection but if you don’t have confidence to make a move, she’ll only see you as a friend. 

If you been hanging out with the woman you like for some time and you haven’t pulled a move, eventually she is going to get tired and move on. It’s best to make a move and fail than to never had made a move at all. As for us who took too long, it happens. Perhaps it happened for a reason. Maybe there’s a girl out there who looks at you with the same eyes that you looked at her. Look around.

Guys, you can get the woman you want . You can tell a woman many times that you like her but if you don’t show it she won’t believe you. She will probably think you are not into her. What I want from you the reader to remember from this post is know what you wantknow who you wantknow how to show want you want. All it takes is confidence.

 P.S. Catch the signs genius.


​Today as I was scrolling down my Facebook feed I saw a quote that really spoke out to me and I bet at least all of us can relate to. I usually don’t go on Facebook anymore, all I see on there is advertising, clickbait articles and “news.” The only interesting content on there is memes and quotes, let’s be honest. Well anyways the quote that I could relate to is the following: “The most fucked up joke life with play on you is letting you meet the right person at wrong time.” What a joke indeed.

Timing is everything. She’s into you and you’re into her. You might be making all the right moves, taking all the hints, and taking your time to really know her but it all it comes down to timing. Both of you are to be on the same page, know what you both want and without baggage from past relationships.

 Many times you and the woman you want hold an amazing connection and your vibes resonate with each other but she scared to trust again. For some reason it always happens that when a good guy comes along their path women seem to push them away. Perhaps that is not always the case, good guys do get the girl. A reason could be it just wasn’t the right time to start something. 

We need to break the cycle of good guys getting fucked over by a girl because then they turn into fuckboys. If you’re not into him don’t lead them on and guys don’t let a woman change the way you are. I been fucked over time over time and yet I’m still me, I don’t let that change my personality. I will probably dedicate a post on this topic further along the line.

When the timing is not right many times we still decide on being exclusive to a woman and wait for that right time to occur. The hardest choice a guy can make is whether to keep trying or letting go, it sucks being in that position, I been there countless times. You overthink and assume. Two dangerous actions. You either keep her as a friend or move on.

Being someone’s friend when you want more is hard, you may have a slight chance for it to evolve into something more or you could end up getting hurt in the process. Although this takes consistency and patience, your other option is letting go which is probably the most real G shit out there. 

In your eyes she was the right woman for you. Did you stop and think that you probably weren’t the right guy for her at least not at the time. Think about it.

The First Date

​Out of all the guy friends she was talking to, she decided to give you a chance. Fuck yeah you are doing something right then. Sometimes patience is for the strong, only the weak break easy. You stuck around to see her through the bad times not just emotionally but physically too and by that I mean no makeup, cranky, probably want to kill you half the time, or tries to burn your house down. Yet for some crazy reason you’re still interested.  

You ask her out on a real date and she agrees to let you take her out on an outing to the countryside as I like to say. The first real date is either rewarding or weird as shit. So own it like you have always daydreamed about. Don’t act as someone you’re not. Make the first date interesting because it’s all about having a fun time with another person and making them feel comfortable. 

Here are some tips for your first date. After all you got to make a good impression if you want a potential second date. First of all the basics  that every guy has to know when taking a woman out. Go get her at her doorstep, open the car door for her, pull out her chair so she can sit, you know the drill. If you’re feeling really good about the date buying her flowers will make you stand out, but don’t over do it. 

Three words: Conversation, conversation and conversation. A tip I would recommend is to have topics of conversation already in mind. Nothing is worse than a date with little to no conversation. Don’t be a chatterbox either, she is probably not going to listen to half of what you say. I get it she’s nervous and you are probably shitting bricks but keep your cool. Make her laugh, tease her or even crack some jokes anything to release that tension. Sarcasm works too but careful there.

Doesn’t everybody wish they could take their own advice. Like I probably just gave the best advice ever yet I fail to take it myself. I been in situations where I had nothing to say but any random thought evolved into a full on conversation. Keeping up a conversation is harder than it looks like so if it’s quiet at the beginning don’t fret keep trying. Avoid small talk and short answer questions. 

As for choosing what to do for a date simple is always better. Plan out a date, it shows that you took your time to put something together for her. Dates that involve food such as going to dinner are your best bet. What I like about food dates is you being able to be yourself. We can be our bare selves when we eat unless you’re the shy type. Sometimes the best talks are over a good meal. Always pay the bill, don’t be cheap. None of that lets split the bill.

Going on a movie date is great and all but you can’t really start a conversation and that is crucial in the first date. The movies are probably best on the second or third dates if you even get that far. Even when you have your date planned out always have a secondary activity. For example let’s say dinner is over and you still want to spend some more time with her and she wants to stick around. Having something ready to do in mind is important. Bowling is a good choice hint hint. A walk around downtown doesn’t seen too shabby either.

Last but not least. Compliments go a long way and can make a woman’s day. So man up and tell her how gorgeous she looks because I know you been dying to tell her that for some time. Make her feel like she’s the main actress in your script. Own the first date. You got this.

The Late Seventh Blog

​​Don’t fall too quick for a woman but be real on what you want from them. I’ve fallen hard many times, drunk falling, clumsy falling, and sports falling. Yet I manage to get up and laugh about it. I wish I could say the same when falling for a girl. When I fall for a girl I fall hard and getting up and laughing about it ain’t that easy.

In my journey to understanding dating and love life this is probably the hardest for me. I fall hard for girls, somehow everyone notices -_-. To this day I’m still learning to calm my tits down. I call it the falling game because it’s a game of patience and knowing what you want. In my experience I kept falling for broken girls. I always knew what I wanted but never had patience. In my past relationships things got serious very quick and that was the reason they didn’t last long. I fell for a body and not a mind.

My advice is to take one day at a time. Don’t try to rush into anything. It may sound cliché but go with the flow and live in the moment. If there’s chemistry between you two, a reaction is bound to occur genius. You can trip here and there just don’t fall too quick. So the girl you like is cute, has similar interests as you, and has the qualities that you look for in a girl. That’s just the surface but you have to dig deeper. Before you decide to commit to someone know what their aspirations are, their dreams and most important their view of the world. You might be amazed at what you learn from them, you might just learn a lesson or two. Fall for a mind not a body.

Dam that’s seven blogs already, lucky me I guess I haven’t been lazy after all. By now I hope that people have read through or at least glimpsed at my blog. Talking about my dating experiences is not an easy to do especially when I have made many mistakes. From giving too much to jealousy.

For my late seventh blog I will introduce myself to the blogging world. Allow me to tell you a little about myself. I am an ARTIST. I always found the arts captivating and now I’m embracing my inner creativity. I am a SCORPIO. I am passionate to the core so if I give it my all you must be special to me. Finally, I am a LOVERBOY. I can’t deny that any longer. I could say the corniest shit with no regrets. No ragrets.

People tell me that I’m too serious. Ohh boy are you in for a surprise. I like dancing, singing, and photography but that’s just the surface. What I look for in a woman is someone who is is a mix of weird and sarcasm. Most important someone who knows what they want. Be warned that I might write about you if you catch my eye. 😉

Social Media and Texting

Communication is essential when you are getting to know a woman. The two most common ways of communication used in this era is through social media and texting. 

Social media. I honestly have a love-hate relationship with it. It’s fun but people take it too serious. Social media allows people to show the world a little about themselves, a little too much I should say, from posts and checking-ins to photos and videos. Social media allows you to connect with other people but I feel like we use it to look at funny memes and to see what other people are doing, in other words stalking.

If you find yourself constantly hitting up a woman you like or always waiting to see what new photo or post they have published you are giving off a needy vibe. Guys learn to chill out. I’m not saying not to hit her up because being consistent shows that you are truly interested. Just learn to give women space. Lots of it. Learn to value your own space as well.

When getting to know a woman it is best to not add her on all social media channels especially at the start. Don’t try to know everything about a woman through social media. Get to know her face to face, that’s where the real magic happens. 

Say you are really into a woman and you see her talking to other guys on social media. Let’s be real, no guy likes seeing that especially if you’re both not on the same page when it comes to exclusivity. If you don’t let social media get to you or bother you then awesome but I’m talking on behalf of all guys who tend to overthink because of it. Don’t take social media too serious.

Like everything, social media has its ups and downs but asking for a woman’s number is probably the best option. Always text first because no girl will ever text first. She might not text you back right away and that’s fine she will eventually read it. She might be busy or might simply have a better conversation with someone else that’s the plain truth. Send the message and just carry on with your day, don’t think about it too much. 

Text as if you were talking, do it naturally. As hard as it might sound just text what comes to mind don’t overthink it. If you find yourself erasing and rewriting the message you are overthinking. Keep the conversation entertaining, talk about random things I’m sure you will find a topic that will interest both of you. 

Never give up too easy on a woman. Say you start a conversation but she seems uninterested in talking, she might have had a busy or bad day. Whatever the reason try to make her laugh that’s usually the best way to get a woman intrigued. Be consistent and don’t give up keep trying. If she still seems uninterested in the conversation then that’s a clear indicator that should probably stop hitting her up.

This one I’m a huge culprit of. Leaving conversations hanging either because I don’t have nothing to say or I don’t know what to say. Ladies don’t take it personal but sometimes conversations just die out. Let’s say a conversation just drags on and you texted last and she hasn’t responded for days, start a new conversation. 

Don’t be scared to send that double text, sometimes you lose girls by not trying enough. It shows that you really want to talk to her. But don’t try to always find something to text about. Women might push you away if they see that you are getting attached too quick. Like social media, give them space when texting. Don’t bombard them with messages, it’s annoying. Keyword SPACE.

Love Machine Gun

​Awesome you’re talking to a girl who you think is cute but should you only talk to her? In this type of situation there are usually two sides:

One: I shouldn’t be exclusive to anyone, I should talk to whoever I find attractive because every girl has a potential.

Two: I should only talk to her because that shows her that I am interested in her and no one else. 

Which side is right? The world may never know but I can tell you the following: In an ideal world you would want to be exclusive with a girl you were interested in and get that same exclusivity back “but that’s in a scenario where it’s too close to perfect, it seems exclusivity is not what this generation is about.” Neither choice is right or wrong it depends on the experiences that people have gone through. To each their own.

In my personal experience, I was the type of guy who would be exclusive to one girl because well I am and always will be loverboy. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience with being exclusive and learned the hard way. This was awhile ago but still very fresh in my mind. Basically I was exclusive to a girl and I wasn’t getting that back in return. She was talking to other guys and I hated it but it was my fault for giving the wrong person exclusivity. Don’t get me wrong being exclusive to someone is awesome as long as both a man and a woman share that same ideal and stick to it.   

In the meantime while you haven’t agreed to exclusivity be a Love Machine Gun and shoot rounds of flirting and fun because who doesn’t like that. Be the guy every girl feels comfortable with. Always keep the door open when getting to know someone as I like to say. You never know where it can lead to. Keep your options open and don’t go expecting something too soon. Everyone hates being an option. Perhaps it’s a good thing to have options because you want the person who truly deserves you and understands you in a deeper level. 

Biggest advice I could give is don’t lead someone on. BOTH men and women are culprits of this. Don’t lead someone on especially if you don’t know what you want. Even if you might be seen as an asshole or just someone who is a straight up fiend with lots of confidence. Be real on what you want from the get go, whether it is something serious or just to mess around.

Until BOTH a man and a woman decide to make things work with each other have fun and go out with different people. After all we’re young, wild and free until further notice. Don’t rush into anything too fast, until BOTH of you are on the same page. You could but you’re setting yourself up for failure and someone getting hurt in the long run. Sometimes the best relationships happen over time and not overnight.

It’s completely fine to talk to other girls and have options but once you decide on which girl rocks your boat the most make sure she knows she’s the one you want. Make sure that if and when you decide to commit to someone, fucking do it. If you were talking to other girls let them know that you are off-limits. Honesty is priority, well at least in my script. 

To Give And To Expect?

​Give without expectations. Give because you truly want to and not because it will get her to like you more. So you’re the type of guy that likes giving everything he’s got when getting to know a girl. By giving I mean being nice to her, giving her gifts, buying her food (I would suggest tacos, because tacos are life) or teaching her something new. Do it because you want to and not because you expect something in return. 

This post is dedicated to a girl I used to like the first two years of college. I would always do things for her like correct her essays, buy her food when she was stressed, and walked her to class. I did those acts in hopes of getting her to see me with different eyes. I did the mistake of ignoring her for a good year because I was madly crazy for her, yet she saw me as a friend. I was lucky enough that even after I made her feel like shit and acted like a total asshole, she still decided to be my friend. She still reminds me how I was so immature for acting like I didn’t know her especially when I would see her on campus. I curse myself because dafuq was I thinking. 

We recently had a conversation about relationships and did a little catching up, since she was being a stranger -_-. I don’t know how it came up but we started talking about nice guys. She told me she had a guy friend who would do things for her to get her attention. She really appreciated his generosity and acts of giving. Like if you bought her French Fries she would not think twice about it, she would have destroyed those poor potatoes. Later she found out that the guy friend had the hots for her but she only saw him as a friend. Homie got discouraged and said to her “You used me for my niceness.” This is taking into consideration that she never asked for any of it, it was all his idea. As a giver just because you do all these acts of giving doesn’t mean they have to like you back. 

Guys don’t make this mistake you are only giving yourself false hope and a bad illusion. Be nice but don’t expect for them to reciprocate those same acts back. If they do then hey that’s awesome they are giving things to you. Don’t go thinking they like you either. The worst mistake you can do is to be nice and give her things only to get her and then become a stranger out of the blue. Don’t be like I was, don’t be an asshole.

I am a giver myself, I can’t deny that. I like giving out to people it makes me feel good about myself. Even then I have to know that I’m not always going to get anything in return. When I’m interested in someone new I give it my all but I am learning to control that. It’s good to give but to a certain extent. You don’t wanna bombard her with these acts that it makes you seem needy or pushy. Guys learn to keep your cool and don’t always try to go out of your way to find an opportunity to give a woman something. If a chance presents itself go for it but give without expectations.

Underlying Issues

​To really know a woman is to know them from within and not just what you see on the outside. You may think that you know everything about her but truth is you never really know them completely. There is always a part of each woman that is not known by many; it is locked away in a safe and only opens up to worthy individuals. 

So you meet a woman and you’re getting to know each other. You hang out a couple of times, you talk to each other constantly, and she laughs at your jokes. You have a good connection overall. You might think man this is going pretty good. I might actually have a shot with her, not the drinking kind but would have been nice too.

You get to the point where you need to do something about what you are feeling before it becomes an issue. So you tell her confidently how you feel and you get hit with the.. I see you as a friend or the I’m not ready for anything serious. It’s basically every guy’s worst nightmare. As a guy you might immediately think ohh she’s playing hard to get and wants me to put in work that is not always the case. 

Sometimes it’s so easy to judge a book by their cover without knowing their underlying issues. In other words you don’t know what they are dealing with. They might be happy on the outside but who knows what’s going on inside. You know how they say women don’t need to be understood, only loved. Well I think that’s looking at things one-sided. There is always two sides of a story. Perhaps they need to be understood to some extent to know where they are coming from. They might have their reasons for not wanting anything serious.

Perhaps a relationship is out of the question because they need to fix those underlying issues. They could also be playing it safe or they truly see you as a friend. It is also girl code for not interested. Get the memo. Or simply put there is just no attraction, face it attraction plays a major factor in getting to know someone. Sometimes you have to read between the lines and don’t get it twisted. The worst thing you can do is ruin a good friendship over feelings. Don’t worry if you did, I’ve done it in the past, it just serves as a lesson that you just can’t make someone see you the way you see them.

You can handle this one of two ways. You can either accept the situation, be their friend and stick around. Just because they don’t see you with the same eyes doesn’t mean you should go and change, girls have a sixth sense and they know when that happens. So don’t go changing and don’t drop off the face of the earth either.

Or you can do something about the situation. If you truly can’t be friends be upfront and tell them that being friends might not be a such a good idea. They might or might not understand. Sometimes you have to be honest and true to yourself. 


My mother once told me in Spanish “Necesitas una ilusión mijo, algo que te motive” which meant “You need an illusion son, something that will motivate you.” It was her way to lift up my spirit when I was feeling down and anxious. I asked why she had said that because illusions can deceive us. Tricking us into feeling a certain way and seeing things a certain way, I just didn’t understand her at the moment. All I knew was that illusions were negative and unreal.

Later it hit me because without knowing I indeed had an illusion; an illusion over a woman. Now this is a different type of illusion and I thought to myself  about how an illusion like this can either be positive or negative. It can go one of two ways: It can be a man’s downfall or a reason to better himself. An illusion over a woman can cause you to overthink situations that are clear as water but you keep creating ripples every time you create different outcomes in your head. This was true about me. I would overthink too much even over the smallest of things such as responding to a text message from a woman that I was particularly interested in.

We all have had positive and negative illusions especially in love life. I’ve had a taste of both, heck they are probably reading this so why not talk about it briefly. My first illusion over a woman was also my first real heartbreak. I was broken. I would always try to find the reason why everything went wrong but it was just me overthinking the situation. Jealousy and not being myself were my worst enemies and in the end I lost a friend. My second illusion reignited me and gave me perspective. She made me realize that I was genuinely a real person. Someone who knew what he wanted and unafraid to say it, unfortunately we were on different paths. She didn’t see me the way I saw her but in the end I gained a friend and boost of confidence. No matter how we ended up I will always remember the lessons that I learned through my two illusions.

An illusion over a woman can push you constantly and keep that spark in your eyes or tear you down and that spark is blown away by the wind. An illusion over a woman can open up your heart and mind but sometimes the balance of these two gets out of hand; there’s no equilibrium.Your heart feels too much that you don’t think. You think too much that you don’t listen to your heart and do what feels right. An illusion over a woman can either help you make decisions that you will be proud of or plain stupid decisions.

Perhaps every man needs a positive illusion in his life that will push him to get up and conquer the world. Illusions aren’t all bad. An illusion over a woman can be a man’s downfall or a reason to better himself, him and only him can make that choice.