The Hottie, the Hipster and the Hippie.

​They say everything in life comes in packs of three. From third time’s a charm to the three musketeers. I like to propose that every man has three women in his life that teach him lessons that will forever be remembered. Lessons that make men realize what they could be doing to better themselves. In my journey to understanding dating and love life, I crossed paths with three women who taught me lessons and shaped me into the person I am today. For some reason women bring out the best and worst in me. Today I will talk about the three women who inspired me and enhanced my hidden talents. Three strong and admirable women I should point out. I really thought about whether to post this or not because let’s be real, no guy likes talking about the girls that they talked to. I was like “na” maybe I should just keep it to myself but then I was like fuck it why not. Just do it. So shall we begin or shall we begin?

The Hottie, also known as my first dance partner. We used to have the same dance class but at different times. I remember I would go to both my class and hers because it was hella fun dancing tropical music. I wasn’t the type of person who danced until I took that class. We started going to events and because of her I started gradually getting better, it was all about practicing and tension. I was spending so much time with her that catching feelings was bound to happen. The lesson she taught me was that it’s never a good thing to ruin an awesome friendship over feelings especially when you been friends for a while. I was a douche to her by ignoring her and making it seem like I didn’t know her. I made her feel like shit all because I wanted something more. Even then she forgave me because well she didn’t want to lose my friendship. She also made me realize that I am LOVERBOY. She made me realize that about myself because I was always hella corny to her and I was good at it. I’m still corny but now I realize it needs to be for  the right person. So best believe if you’re into me and I’m into you I will be corny as tits. I mistook her friendly vibe for a she wants me vibe.

 The Hipster, oh boy was she a trip. Also known as the aspiring film nerd. You could say she was my first real heartbreak that taught me a lesson indeed. I still remember when we were in the recording studio and we talked about why she chose film as her major. She could go on for days talking about filmmaking and she wouldn’t get tired. As we talked she told me something that I will always remember, she told me “I want to be the best, no.. I WILL be the best filmmaker.” She was completely sure of herself without any hesitation and that might have been a reason I fell for her, I fell for her dedication.The lesson she taught me was that with dedication and passion you can make your dreams possible. Just seeing that spark in her eyes inspired me to get back into photography. I took a couple of classes before and wanted to get better. The downside was that I was limited because I never owned a legit camera. Yet I still tried to do my best work with what I had. Now I have my own legit camera and basically take it everywhere with me. She might be a proud LEO who loves attention but she inspired me. I turned something I enjoyed doing into one of my passions, after all us SCORPIO’s are passionate to the core.

The Hippie, she’s probably the most realest person I’ve met. She was honest and that kinda rubbed off on me. The lesson she taught me was self-love and that being alone isn’t that bad. Society makes us believe that being alone means we’re lonely but that is such BS. By being alone you learn a lot about yourself and what your want in life. No woman should need a guy to be happy and no guy should need a woman to be happy. Perhaps we need to stop constantly searching for love and let it come to us. Before you can love someone and give them a part of you, you have to love yourself first. I remember one night that I had so much to say about my feelings but I didn’t know how tell her so I wrote her a letter. After reading it she told me that I should consider writing and so I took her advice. It was always easier to get my points across through writing but she gave me that extra push. As you can see I started my own dating and love life blog thanks to her . Might be limited to writing all these blogs on my phone and my thumbs hurting but I make the most of it. Sad to say I don’t own a laptop yet. Might be bit rusty on my grammar but practice will make me better. She taught me to embrace my inner creativity and to treat life artistically, after all us ARTIST’s brains are perhaps our hearts. 

In conclusion to my thesis statement a guy has three women in his life that he has either got to know or dated that changed his way of thinking. You might have gone through four or five girls but the idea here is that you learned and not committed the same actions/mistakes twice. No matter in what terms we ended in I would like to thank these three women for helping me become the person I am today. I know who I am and what I want.


Getting The Woman of Your Dreams

​Knowing what you want is the first step but executing your intentions is actually the crucial step. It’s about giving out the correct vibe. 

For the longest time I believed in the “friendzone” and everyone mocked me for being the guy who always got “frienzoned.” Many times guys give off that friend vibe and that is why girls that they like only see them as friends. If you want someone just go for it and don’t overthink it. If you want to write to her, do it. If you want to sing to her, do it. If you want to draw her something do it. Doesn’t matter how small the gesture just fucking do it. The little things count the most.

For the longest time I also believed that I was missing something and that girls never saw me as anything more than a friend. I realized that there were many girls that indeed saw me as something else but I was never really good at reading signs, I was oblivious to them. I hate how sometimes hints are clear as water yet we don’t catch them early on. Catching the signs has been the downfall of many guys. Whether they were friend signs or I want you signs, they mix them up. 

I probably lost the woman I wanted because I could not read the obvious signs. Or I was reading them all wrong. If something is meant to be between a man and a woman there’s no anxiety, there’s no overthinking, it just happens. Like it’s not even funny at the number of opportunities I had, yet for one reason or another the anxiety spiked up and I messed up. Like bro get the fucking hint. Don’t make the mistake that I been doing for years. 

I’m not a love guru or a dating doctor, I still struggle with showing women how I feel about them. The key to getting the woman of your dreams is confidence, that’s all it really comes down to. Yeah she needs to be attracted to you and yeah you guys have to have a connection but if you don’t have confidence to make a move, she’ll only see you as a friend. 

If you been hanging out with the woman you like for some time and you haven’t pulled a move, eventually she is going to get tired and move on. It’s best to make a move and fail than to never had made a move at all. As for us who took too long, it happens. Perhaps it happened for a reason. Maybe there’s a girl out there who looks at you with the same eyes that you looked at her. Look around.

Guys, you can get the woman you want . You can tell a woman many times that you like her but if you don’t show it she won’t believe you. She will probably think you are not into her. What I want from you the reader to remember from this post is know what you wantknow who you wantknow how to show want you want. All it takes is confidence.

 P.S. Catch the signs genius.