Timing

​Today as I was scrolling down my Facebook feed I saw a quote that really spoke out to me and I bet at least all of us can relate to. I usually don’t go on Facebook anymore, all I see on there is advertising, clickbait articles and “news.” The only interesting content on there is memes and quotes, let’s be honest. Well anyways the quote that I could relate to is the following: “The most fucked up joke life with play on you is letting you meet the right person at wrong time.” What a joke indeed.

Timing is everything. She’s into you and you’re into her. You might be making all the right moves, taking all the hints, and taking your time to really know her but it all it comes down to timing. Both of you are to be on the same page, know what you both want and without baggage from past relationships.

 Many times you and the woman you want hold an amazing connection and your vibes resonate with each other but she scared to trust again. For some reason it always happens that when a good guy comes along their path women seem to push them away. Perhaps that is not always the case, good guys do get the girl. A reason could be it just wasn’t the right time to start something. 

We need to break the cycle of good guys getting fucked over by a girl because then they turn into fuckboys. If you’re not into him don’t lead them on and guys don’t let a woman change the way you are. I been fucked over time over time and yet I’m still me, I don’t let that change my personality. I will probably dedicate a post on this topic further along the line.

When the timing is not right many times we still decide on being exclusive to a woman and wait for that right time to occur. The hardest choice a guy can make is whether to keep trying or letting go, it sucks being in that position, I been there countless times. You overthink and assume. Two dangerous actions. You either keep her as a friend or move on.

Being someone’s friend when you want more is hard, you may have a slight chance for it to evolve into something more or you could end up getting hurt in the process. Although this takes consistency and patience, your other option is letting go which is probably the most real G shit out there. 

In your eyes she was the right woman for you. Did you stop and think that you probably weren’t the right guy for her at least not at the time. Think about it.

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The First Date

​Out of all the guy friends she was talking to, she decided to give you a chance. Fuck yeah you are doing something right then. Sometimes patience is for the strong, only the weak break easy. You stuck around to see her through the bad times not just emotionally but physically too and by that I mean no makeup, cranky, probably want to kill you half the time, or tries to burn your house down. Yet for some crazy reason you’re still interested.  

You ask her out on a real date and she agrees to let you take her out on an outing to the countryside as I like to say. The first real date is either rewarding or weird as shit. So own it like you have always daydreamed about. Don’t act as someone you’re not. Make the first date interesting because it’s all about having a fun time with another person and making them feel comfortable. 

Here are some tips for your first date. After all you got to make a good impression if you want a potential second date. First of all the basics  that every guy has to know when taking a woman out. Go get her at her doorstep, open the car door for her, pull out her chair so she can sit, you know the drill. If you’re feeling really good about the date buying her flowers will make you stand out, but don’t over do it. 

Three words: Conversation, conversation and conversation. A tip I would recommend is to have topics of conversation already in mind. Nothing is worse than a date with little to no conversation. Don’t be a chatterbox either, she is probably not going to listen to half of what you say. I get it she’s nervous and you are probably shitting bricks but keep your cool. Make her laugh, tease her or even crack some jokes anything to release that tension. Sarcasm works too but careful there.

Doesn’t everybody wish they could take their own advice. Like I probably just gave the best advice ever yet I fail to take it myself. I been in situations where I had nothing to say but any random thought evolved into a full on conversation. Keeping up a conversation is harder than it looks like so if it’s quiet at the beginning don’t fret keep trying. Avoid small talk and short answer questions. 

As for choosing what to do for a date simple is always better. Plan out a date, it shows that you took your time to put something together for her. Dates that involve food such as going to dinner are your best bet. What I like about food dates is you being able to be yourself. We can be our bare selves when we eat unless you’re the shy type. Sometimes the best talks are over a good meal. Always pay the bill, don’t be cheap. None of that lets split the bill.

Going on a movie date is great and all but you can’t really start a conversation and that is crucial in the first date. The movies are probably best on the second or third dates if you even get that far. Even when you have your date planned out always have a secondary activity. For example let’s say dinner is over and you still want to spend some more time with her and she wants to stick around. Having something ready to do in mind is important. Bowling is a good choice hint hint. A walk around downtown doesn’t seen too shabby either.

Last but not least. Compliments go a long way and can make a woman’s day. So man up and tell her how gorgeous she looks because I know you been dying to tell her that for some time. Make her feel like she’s the main actress in your script. Own the first date. You got this.

The Late Seventh Blog

​​Don’t fall too quick for a woman but be real on what you want from them. I’ve fallen hard many times, drunk falling, clumsy falling, and sports falling. Yet I manage to get up and laugh about it. I wish I could say the same when falling for a girl. When I fall for a girl I fall hard and getting up and laughing about it ain’t that easy.

In my journey to understanding dating and love life this is probably the hardest for me. I fall hard for girls, somehow everyone notices -_-. To this day I’m still learning to calm my tits down. I call it the falling game because it’s a game of patience and knowing what you want. In my experience I kept falling for broken girls. I always knew what I wanted but never had patience. In my past relationships things got serious very quick and that was the reason they didn’t last long. I fell for a body and not a mind.

My advice is to take one day at a time. Don’t try to rush into anything. It may sound cliché but go with the flow and live in the moment. If there’s chemistry between you two, a reaction is bound to occur genius. You can trip here and there just don’t fall too quick. So the girl you like is cute, has similar interests as you, and has the qualities that you look for in a girl. That’s just the surface but you have to dig deeper. Before you decide to commit to someone know what their aspirations are, their dreams and most important their view of the world. You might be amazed at what you learn from them, you might just learn a lesson or two. Fall for a mind not a body.

Dam that’s seven blogs already, lucky me I guess I haven’t been lazy after all. By now I hope that people have read through or at least glimpsed at my blog. Talking about my dating experiences is not an easy to do especially when I have made many mistakes. From giving too much to jealousy.

For my late seventh blog I will introduce myself to the blogging world. Allow me to tell you a little about myself. I am an ARTIST. I always found the arts captivating and now I’m embracing my inner creativity. I am a SCORPIO. I am passionate to the core so if I give it my all you must be special to me. Finally, I am a LOVERBOY. I can’t deny that any longer. I could say the corniest shit with no regrets. No ragrets.

People tell me that I’m too serious. Ohh boy are you in for a surprise. I like dancing, singing, and photography but that’s just the surface. What I look for in a woman is someone who is is a mix of weird and sarcasm. Most important someone who knows what they want. Be warned that I might write about you if you catch my eye. 😉

Social Media and Texting

Communication is essential when you are getting to know a woman. The two most common ways of communication used in this era is through social media and texting. 

Social media. I honestly have a love-hate relationship with it. It’s fun but people take it too serious. Social media allows people to show the world a little about themselves, a little too much I should say, from posts and checking-ins to photos and videos. Social media allows you to connect with other people but I feel like we use it to look at funny memes and to see what other people are doing, in other words stalking.

If you find yourself constantly hitting up a woman you like or always waiting to see what new photo or post they have published you are giving off a needy vibe. Guys learn to chill out. I’m not saying not to hit her up because being consistent shows that you are truly interested. Just learn to give women space. Lots of it. Learn to value your own space as well.

When getting to know a woman it is best to not add her on all social media channels especially at the start. Don’t try to know everything about a woman through social media. Get to know her face to face, that’s where the real magic happens. 

Say you are really into a woman and you see her talking to other guys on social media. Let’s be real, no guy likes seeing that especially if you’re both not on the same page when it comes to exclusivity. If you don’t let social media get to you or bother you then awesome but I’m talking on behalf of all guys who tend to overthink because of it. Don’t take social media too serious.

Like everything, social media has its ups and downs but asking for a woman’s number is probably the best option. Always text first because no girl will ever text first. She might not text you back right away and that’s fine she will eventually read it. She might be busy or might simply have a better conversation with someone else that’s the plain truth. Send the message and just carry on with your day, don’t think about it too much. 

Text as if you were talking, do it naturally. As hard as it might sound just text what comes to mind don’t overthink it. If you find yourself erasing and rewriting the message you are overthinking. Keep the conversation entertaining, talk about random things I’m sure you will find a topic that will interest both of you. 

Never give up too easy on a woman. Say you start a conversation but she seems uninterested in talking, she might have had a busy or bad day. Whatever the reason try to make her laugh that’s usually the best way to get a woman intrigued. Be consistent and don’t give up keep trying. If she still seems uninterested in the conversation then that’s a clear indicator that should probably stop hitting her up.

This one I’m a huge culprit of. Leaving conversations hanging either because I don’t have nothing to say or I don’t know what to say. Ladies don’t take it personal but sometimes conversations just die out. Let’s say a conversation just drags on and you texted last and she hasn’t responded for days, start a new conversation. 

Don’t be scared to send that double text, sometimes you lose girls by not trying enough. It shows that you really want to talk to her. But don’t try to always find something to text about. Women might push you away if they see that you are getting attached too quick. Like social media, give them space when texting. Don’t bombard them with messages, it’s annoying. Keyword SPACE.

Love Machine Gun

​Awesome you’re talking to a girl who you think is cute but should you only talk to her? In this type of situation there are usually two sides:

One: I shouldn’t be exclusive to anyone, I should talk to whoever I find attractive because every girl has a potential.

Two: I should only talk to her because that shows her that I am interested in her and no one else. 

Which side is right? The world may never know but I can tell you the following: In an ideal world you would want to be exclusive with a girl you were interested in and get that same exclusivity back “but that’s in a scenario where it’s too close to perfect, it seems exclusivity is not what this generation is about.” Neither choice is right or wrong it depends on the experiences that people have gone through. To each their own.

In my personal experience, I was the type of guy who would be exclusive to one girl because well I am and always will be loverboy. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience with being exclusive and learned the hard way. This was awhile ago but still very fresh in my mind. Basically I was exclusive to a girl and I wasn’t getting that back in return. She was talking to other guys and I hated it but it was my fault for giving the wrong person exclusivity. Don’t get me wrong being exclusive to someone is awesome as long as both a man and a woman share that same ideal and stick to it.   

In the meantime while you haven’t agreed to exclusivity be a Love Machine Gun and shoot rounds of flirting and fun because who doesn’t like that. Be the guy every girl feels comfortable with. Always keep the door open when getting to know someone as I like to say. You never know where it can lead to. Keep your options open and don’t go expecting something too soon. Everyone hates being an option. Perhaps it’s a good thing to have options because you want the person who truly deserves you and understands you in a deeper level. 

Biggest advice I could give is don’t lead someone on. BOTH men and women are culprits of this. Don’t lead someone on especially if you don’t know what you want. Even if you might be seen as an asshole or just someone who is a straight up fiend with lots of confidence. Be real on what you want from the get go, whether it is something serious or just to mess around.

Until BOTH a man and a woman decide to make things work with each other have fun and go out with different people. After all we’re young, wild and free until further notice. Don’t rush into anything too fast, until BOTH of you are on the same page. You could but you’re setting yourself up for failure and someone getting hurt in the long run. Sometimes the best relationships happen over time and not overnight.

It’s completely fine to talk to other girls and have options but once you decide on which girl rocks your boat the most make sure she knows she’s the one you want. Make sure that if and when you decide to commit to someone, fucking do it. If you were talking to other girls let them know that you are off-limits. Honesty is priority, well at least in my script.